Coaching Leaders [1 of 5]
An effective coaching relationship can’t begin without a conversation that helps the coachee clarify their vision and/or life purpose, know their intended goals (for life, work, etc.), and then articulate their expectations of a coach. In addition, there must be an established agreement where the coachee willingly invites the coach to challenge, encourage, and support them. effective coaching cannot happen without being given permission to actually coach. And if a coach doesn’t see the coachee’s determined and clear commitment to change and grow, that must be addressed because if this dynamic isn’t present, effective coaching cannot happen. Openness, willingness to change, and relational permission are absolutely necessary for a coaching relationship to work.
Coaching isn’t just about offering your advice, or critical analysis, or giving all your solutions and wisdom to someone else’s problems.
One reason why coaches need to know someone’s intentions is so they don’t just judge the behavior of a person without realizing what that person is striving towards, or what their desired outcomes are. Although the coachee’s behaviors may be inconsistent at times with their intentions, if a coach understands their intentions, they become equipped to come alongside that person and affirm their striving toward their desired intentions, even though they have inconsistencies. This helps the coachee feel supported and understood, a powerful dynamic at work in effective coaching.
